And It’s That Day, Once Again ~ Early Afternoon Thoughts ~

First off some thoughts in picture …..

blog April Fools Day1

blog April Fools Day2

There, now that I’ve gotten that out-of-the-way ….

Along the years, I’ve gotten to enjoy some really bizarre “conspiracy theories”.   Some are in the category of >banging head on keyboard> while others actually make you stop and go “Hmm.”  This is one of those.

In spite of what my Grand-kids might think, cell phones are a rather new invention … or are they?

the way back machine

[NOTE: the two videos that follow have NOT been doctored, they are as they were … ]

OK, let’s set the way back machine  to the year – well close to the year – 1928 and Charlie Chaplin’s The Circus … watch and you might think that Dr. Who had been there ….

Really? A cell phone in 1928(ish) …. To quote the infomercials: “But wait there’s more…..”

Skip the record ahead just a few years to the somewhere toward 1938(ish) ….

Totally flummoxed? As always, there are some explanations….. I’m just not going to include them now.  I’ll post about it tomorrow after you’ve dealt with them ….

Happy April Fools Day everyone ….

And So I Begin ~

Over the next few days, I’m going to take one of my rambles.  As I’ve been reading and listening and watching I’ve been disturbed by the discourse, or rather the lack of discourse that seems to be permeating everything.  I’m a member of several public and private forums, a long time member of Pogo games, I’m on Facebook and have a pretty extensive list of blogs and magazines that I follow regularly – OK, daily.  There are several places I generally stay out of the comments – YouTube, for instance – as I don’t expect any level of civility, reason or coherent thought.  But over the last few years, a lot of places have degraded seriously …


I have some thoughts on why – unfortunately, I’m not sure I have any solutions …. but, perhaps as I write – some will come to me….

Cyclic Cynical ~ Late Evening Thoughts

Every so often it comes over me. It’s a feeling not of despair or hopelessness ~ but one of deep cynicism. It is not a pleasant feeling or way of thinking. If allowed to run free, it begins to color so many areas of life. . . relationships, friendships and way of life.

As I was trying to track down where this was coming from or being “fed” by, I realized that the political arena was mostly to blame. I was surprised because usually my reaction politically is a heartfelt “Meh” (a new word in the dictionary) or a rather disgusted “Oh well . . . “. It seems that this time the political circus has moved beyond the annoying to emulating the Keystone Kops!

It started with Mr Pay-for-Play Rod Blagojevich, who, until we actually have a chance to hear/read the transcripts of the recorded conversations, seems to be guilty of nothing more than stupidity and babbling bluster. However, that was until the Senate leadership, in its infinite leadership wisdom entered the act. With extreme posturing ~ even by political standards ~ announcing that no one appointed by the governor would be seated in the Senate to replace President-Elect Obama. At first blush it seemed reasonable enough, however with some reflection I remembered there was a court case where the House was told by the Supreme Court no less, That Congress lacked power to fashion its own standards for admittance (back in 1967, involving Adam Clayton Powell ~ race surely coincidental). Of course, the Governor did exactly that . . . he appointed Roland Burris who one article described as someone who: “never lacked in self-esteem or retreated from long-odds challenges.”

This appointment boxed the Senate leadership into a nice corner of their own making.

Then, I read in this priceless bit of information ~

While the process slogs along, it’s also possible that Burris could take on some limited trappings of office.

Past practice (cue music from Fiddler on the Roof here) in the Senate has been to grant a senator whose credentials are disputed office space and payroll for a staff, as well as floor privileges—but not a Senate seat—until the situation is resolved. So Burris potentially could be allowed to enter the exclusive club, but not as a full member, without the ability to vote, speak or even literally sit at a senator’s desk.

At that point, my cynical meter was almost on overload. Everything but the ability to vote or have a seat on the senate floor? Are you kidding me?

It no longer is a surprise to me that Congress is unable to get anything done. They’re too busy living on tradition or trying to outdo or outshout anyone else.

However, all that paled when my cynic (OK, B.S.) meter finally exploded. I had heard this before, but it wasn’t until tonight that any of the anchors seemed to make a point of it . . . The Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid had evidently called Mr. Blogojevich to tell him who NOT to appoint (evidently) because they would not be “electable” in the 2010 elections!! No name politicians such as: Jesse Jackson, Jr., Danny Davis or Emil Jones. Now, this has moved from the Keystone Kops to The Perils of Pauline!

While I am using the political situation as a “set-up” this is not basically a political two-part post. Tomorrow I’m going to explore what this cynical attitude can do to me and to those around me … after all:

“What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.”
—Oscar Wilde (1854 – 1900)

“The opposite of creativity is cynicism”
—Esa Saarinen

“A cynic is a man who, when he smells flowers, looks around for a coffin.”
—H. L. Mencken (1880 – 1956)

The Coal Becomes A Diamond ~ Early Evening Thoughts

The response and viewings of my post, Nodrin King’s posts and Though Lovers Be Lost post about Paul Potts has been interesting and very heartening. The videos haunted me all day today ~ even to the point I was tempted (ONLY tempted) to sneak another look at them while at work today. (I said only TEMPTED!)

So many people in the audience (to say nothing of the judges ~ although I have some sympathy for them ~ have you seen America’s Got Talent?) had prejudged him as he walked out on stage, settled themselves in for a possibly dreadful performance ~ then he opened his mouth and that wonderful, powerful and amazing voice rang out.
Of course, one of the major questions I got was: “Did he win?” Yes, he did ~ and with no further editorializing ~ here is the video clip of the announcement. Another question I had was: “Would he have made it on America’s Got Talent?” I don’t know … but I would hope so.

And I certainly hope that the people with the rights to “Britain’s Got Talent” will continue to allow these clips to be seen by as many people as possible.

And I certainly don’t want to pass over any diamonds in myself or others that might be disguised as a lump of coal.

–more tomorrow night

A Little Lump Of Coal, That Could Become A Diamond ~ Early Evening Thoughts

A dear blogger Nodrin King posted two of these videos on his blog (A Flat With A View) the other day. Having not been on the computer for anything other than work for several days, I missed his post ~ until today. Now, several Kleenex’s later ~ I’m ripping borrowing his post and adding a little bit to it.

In the videos is a man ~ by his own admission ~ with little self-confidence, having been bullied in school, was always “different” making an astounding journey. I’m not going to say much more, I don’t want to spoil your own discovery.

However, I will editorialize just a l i t t l e bit. In the first video watch the judges reactions to him as he says what he does for a living and what he is going to do as an audition. I see their reaction over and over again in life. And you know what? It’s so shallow and condescending. Who are we to make any kind of judgment about someone until we know them?

Probably one of the most disappointing moments in a recent friendship was when this person told me they just simply couldn’t be friends with a particular person anymore because their friends just weren’t all that good looking. After I picked my jaw up off the floor, I had a few things to say … I’ll post more on that later. But being someone who always had difficulty regarding themselves as special, attractive or having a lot of self worth, these videos really spoke to me on a deep, deep level.

And remember the Kleenex’s … you WILL need them.

The audition: Where the title of this post comes from ~

The semi-finals:

The Finals: He sings the same song he sang for the audition ~

Thank you Nodrin ~ These videos made my day!!!!!!

Surprised – But Not By Joy ~ Early Morning Thoughts

Tuesday, D&D and I decided to get together for a bit. We were going to celebrate several things, talk about plans – and have an enjoyable early evening. We had a wonderful late snack, and again headed to one of our favorite places – which was as packed as any place serving $2 well drinks (all night) would be. As noisy as it can get – it is possible to still have a conversation that doesn’t involve shouting into someone’s ear as if you were trying to break their ear drum, or trying maneuver around a “gaggle” of S & M (stand and model) types clustered around with blank expressions or expressions of absolute horror at someone who doesn’t measure up.

D&D had to run a couple of quick errands – and I decided to stay behind and wait for them. At this point, the popcorn (yes – fresh popped) and free chicken (of the fast food variety – thank you very much!) were sounding quite good. I was sitting and enjoying the snacks and people watching. J came over and sat by me. We had chatted for a moment as I was making my way to the rest room – other than that I had never seen him before. He was pleasant , charming and … a hustler. Now, I have a very different approach then most folks. First of all, I’m not going to pay them. Nor will I buy them a drink if they ask me. (oh, and by the way – the quickest way to end ANY conversation is to start a sentence calling me Daddy. I’ve raised my three … there are going to be no more!) So, that puts a totally different slant on most conversations. As a matter of fact, one of my more famous lines has been: “Don’t drop your meter, I’m not getting in your cab.” I enjoy people…and they, after all, are people. I’ve had a lot of fascinating conversations and laughs with them – as with most people. I bought him a drink, we chatted for a bit , he shared a couple of horrendous jokes and then he toddled off to find someone else. The point of all this: there was a feeling that I couldn’t quite put my finger on.

Later, after D&D’s return from successful errand running. Toby (not his real name or initial) whom I had never seen before, literally came and starting “working” me…I’d use the term hitting on me, but I didn’t want to give the impression of violence. I found that unidentified feeling really rubbing me … and then I realized with a shock what it was. I was surprised by cynicism. Actually a very deep rooted cynicism. Something I was totally unprepared for, and unaware of how much I had.

cyn·i·cism(sĭn’ĭ-sĭz’əm)-n- An attitude of scornful or jaded negativity, especially a general distrust of the integrity or professed motives of others:

And how was it expressed? Thank heavens only mentally. I think I realized it before it became expressed either in body language or verbally. My inner reaction was one of very high mistrust of the integrity of him and his motives.

A cynic is a man who, when he smells flowers, looks around for a coffin.
–H. L. Mencken (1880 – 1956)

What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
–Oscar Wilde (1854 – 1900),
Lady Windermere’s Fan, 1892

Immediately upon Toby’s coming to sit down with us, I felt distrust and continual questioning of motives. He had not given me any reason for acting that way. I simply had placed him into a neat little category and was starting to react accordingly.

Cynicism is not realistic and tough. It’s unrealistic and kind of cowardly because it means you don’t have to try.
–Peggy Noonan (1950 – )

Had I not realized what I was doing, I would have lost a wonderful time with a delightful person – who went out of his way to affirm someone he barely knew, and who treated me as a terminal romantic desires to be treated. And it troubles me that my response could have been less than kind or open. I would have lost any reasonable conversation with someone who is delightfully informed and drew out of me some amazing shared interests.

Regardless of orientation, cynicism creates incredible boundaries and barriers to life and other people. Of course, I’m not talking the healthy questioning of motives and such. Let’s face it the person that calls during dinner to tell you about that stock you just HAVE to buy, or the people at your door with the magazine to help you find your way, all have motives that need to be guarded against. Or the person who you’ve just met that wants to “take” you somewhere. That’s not where I’m heading with this. If I had let my cynicism take over, I would have cut off all avenues for any discussion, any sharing and any enjoyment of time with this person. And I would have lost for myself as well. I’m not talking about not being careful what is shared, what is decided and such.

I’m merely talking about being with another individual and enjoying them as they are … not continually questioning how they should, could or might be.
–more on this later
–Seal picture by Rolf Hicker